Resolute

My friend Nancy Nall Derringer’s blog is annoying because it usually sends me down some internet rabbit hole or another chasing her insightful observations. This time it had to do with one word resolutions.

A few years ago, novelist and NN.C internet-friend Laura Lippman started a New Year’s tradition: The one-word resolution. No long lists of overly optimistic goals, sure to be abandoned by January 23, but just one word. A verb, obviously, since a resolution implies change, and you can’t change without taking action.

I can’t remember what all of hers were; one-word resolutions are personal enough that if they aren’t yours, they’re not exactly memorable. I took her up on it, and remember a few of mine. Focus, for one. Finish, for another. Breathe was the year I got more serious about my fitness regimen; most of the breathing was deep or fast and accompanied by a quicker heartbeat. Last year’s – Twerk – was a total failure; I just don’t have the lumbar suppleness anymore. But if you take it metaphorically, I guess I did some twerking. Kinda.

What single verb would you choose to guide positive changes in the New Year? I’ve got two. I’m borrowing one of Nancy’s. “Finish” And I’ve got one of my own. “Connect”.

It was many years ago when talking about my son’s struggles with a school counselor I first heard the term Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD).  These were pre-internet days but I was practicing personal injury law at the the time and I knew my way around the library at Wayne State’s Medical School. After about an hour of reviewing the literature I was dumb struck. These researchers weren’t just talking about my son – they are also talking about me. ADD folks can be impulsive, be poor in time management, have difficulties staying on task, have trouble multi-tasking and be poor in meeting deadlines. We are also capable of hyper-focus. We can be keen analysts because we can see several sides or outcomes to a given situation. And that “impulsiveness” can also be the ability to take risks where others would hesitate. I believe my brain chemistry has actually assisted me in whatever success I’ve had. We need to get rid of the word “disorder” and call it something else.

All that said “Finish” is an appropriate one word resolution of 2018. I’m going to pick two or three projects I’ve started and abandoned and attempt to Finish them.

I’d also like 2018 to be a time to “Connect” with friends, acquaintances and family members with whom I’ve had little contact lately. If you are one of these I would welcome your reaching out to me. I’d love to get coffee or a drink this year.

What’s your one word resolution?

Please share in the comment section.

Saw the film “Darkest Hour” this week end. It’s memorable quote “He mobilized the English language and sent it into battle.” Words can be powerful.

Wishing you all a very Happy New Year.

 

 

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